I couldn’t stand not knowing about my child.
- If you choose an open adoption, you have the potential for ongoing contact with your child.
It would be really difficult and embarrassing – people would see me pregnant and then judge me for giving my baby away.
- Some people might judge a woman for choosing adoption, and yet others might admire the decision. If you believe you are making the best decision for yourself and your baby, it will help offset the fear of what others might think. It is also important that you surround yourself with others who support your decision.
What if my child is abused or hurt?
- That’s a legitimate concern that every parent has. There are many safeguards that exist today to screen adoptive parents.
What if my child hates me for giving him up?
- The concern that your child may feel abandoned is valid. However, with open adoptions, the reasons for placing an infant are frequently communicated to adoptive parents and shared with the child. These reasons often reflect that the decision was made out of love.
I can’t go through that kind of pain.
- The pain or grief will be different for each woman and may be experienced with any pregnancy decision – whether to parent, place for adoption, or have an abortion. There will be a grieving process involved but there are people to support you during that time; many pregnancy care centres offer post-adoption support.